Falling In Love and Studying Blowjob Techniques

I found a very old study from the 90s that says, women prefer Erotic Art as photos, men as movies! Interesting idea, but I think it is outdated by the fact that Nude Art in the internet is much more than 50% photo sets and still well-frequented by men! A more interesting - and much newer - study says, that brain scans show that women's and men's brains show in large parts the same measurable reactions by watching erotic movies or photos! The difference between the genders came up not until subsequent interviews! Here men tell that in their imagination they took part in the scenes they were shown! They imagine to be in the room with the actresses and talk to them, touch them and have sex with them. Women instead told, that they were interested and aroused by witnessing the scenes, but did not imagine to be there!

We can certainly find all kinds of studies telling us all kinds of stuff about 'our' perception of Erotica, but this one rings a bell and points out an interesting difference I can transfer to my 'real life' experiences. A woman I once loved - and lived with - watched porn to find out if she can learn about blowjob techniques. She wanted to know if there are some moves to improve her fun of sucking cocks. And indeed she did not get addicted of watching porn! She watched it for a while and when her curiosity was sated, when she was assured that she learned everything she could from porn movies, she stopped doing it! A group of Lesbian women I'm a friend of are all eager to eroticize their lives. They love sexy underwear, they have a very physical behavior, touchy and kiss-y, and they have pictures of nude women hanging on the walls in their homes. Some of them even kiss those models on the pictures when they come home! Playfully! (Still, I would NEVER do that!) But they never say "I love you!" to the photos in a serious way! They have - as I would say - a very eased access to Erotic Art! They make it a part of their lives, but they don't 'replace their real lives' with a world full of beautiful nude models.

And men? I don't know a single one man who stopped watching porn again. They all get addicted! And I very rarely hear about women who stalk erotic models. This seems to be male behavior! As it was said in the study: men take part in the scenes! They fall in love with erotic models and they tell them about it! They say "I love you!" to a woman they only know from photos and movies in a serious way! And I think they really do not just say it! They feel it! Not in the superficial way, like girls say it at school to each other ("Oh, I love you all so much!"), but in the real life kind of 'losing their hearts to the ONE woman' way.

A little excursion: men have a completely different reputation than women have! Men aren't picky, but their behavior is sometimes perceived as... questionable. To put it mildly. So looking for a mate is different for women and men. As one of my female besties said: "When I need a man, I go to town on a Saturday evening and then I have one on Sunday." May sound funny, but that's how it is and that topic is interesting enough and might deserve it's own text. The same may count for some men, but not for the most of them! The most of them have to go to town for a longer while regularly to find a woman they like and who agrees to go for a date! And - as Ted says in "How I Met Your Mother" - the woman knows after 5 minutes if she wants the man she just dates, but she will not tell for hours to come!

For Nude Art biz this difference between women's and men's perception and participation makes men the most interesting group of clients! Because men want to take part, because they are willing to make Erotic Art an important part of their real lives, they join sites, give tips, make Birthday presents and Valentine's gifts, order Custom shoots and they support! None of my Lesbian friends do that! (Okay, they DO join sites!)

Let me end with an impulse: women and men both have female and male parts deep inside of them! The psychologist Carl Jung describes the Animus as the subconscious masculine side of a woman and the Anima as the unconscious feminine side of a man! When Erotic Art can stir inspiration for a real life sensuality (not only blowjob techniques, but all kinds of sensuality and life style!) and also give us access to our feelings and emotions, reminds us about the ability to love, to take part in something, both is of a great value for all people! If you are woman or man: try to get the full experience you can have with Erotic Art! The female kind and the male kind of perceiving Erotic Art!